125. Your Biggest Fear Isn’t Failure, It’s This Hidden Truth
This episode is a special one! I’m celebrating my 10-year wedding anniversary and reflecting on the profound role my husband has played in my personal development journey. I also dive into a powerful conversation I had with one of my clients around manifesting money and shifting limiting beliefs.
I break down why controlling energy blocks money manifestation and share why it’s so important to trust that abundance can flow through unexpected channels. I also walk you through my signature manifestation formula: Declutter, Decide, Be, Do, Have. If you’ve ever felt stuck thinking money is the only solution, this episode will help you open up new pathways to prosperity. I also share practical ways to reframe your thoughts, build resilience, and hold more wealth with ease.
We chat all things:
Why controlling energy blocks money manifestation
How to stay intentional while remaining open to receiving abundance
My simple 5-step manifestation formula
How to uncover subconscious fears around money and success
Identifying and overcoming physical, emotional, and environmental money blocks
The important difference between YOU and your business
Reframing limiting beliefs for long-term success
Watch the full episode below:
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Hello, and welcome back to another episode of the Money Mindset Hub podcast. If you're new here, I'm your host, Carla Townsend, and I'm a money mindset and success coach who helps purpose driven women shatter their income ceilings and dissolve their money blocks. And today, as I'm recording, this is such a special day.
So shout out to my one and only incredible husband, soulmate, baby daddy. Happy 10 year anniversary, my darling. I cannot believe that it was 10 years ago today that we tied the knot. It is just, it's so crazy to think that it just went that fast. But honestly, I truly feel rich in love and rich in life. And it has so much to do with you or he's probably not listening to this, but it has so much to do with him because if you didn't know, he was actually the one that really got me down this path of personal development, all those about 12 years ago now.
So it's been a really long journey, but I wouldn't be who I am today without him. And so I'm forever grateful. And yeah, life is just. Beautiful. It is beautiful. So it's a Thursday. I'm about to kick off an incredible program with Nicole Towers called Money Moves, which is a sequence of six figures. It is all happening here. And I am absolutely thrilled. So there's a couple of things that I really wanted to touch on today, it's around a conversation that I have with a client recently
and I just thought that it was really fitting that I bring it to you here as well, because you may experience the same sort of blocks. So let's just dive in. So this call that I had recently with a client that came up. So she did my money archetypes quiz. Now, if you don't know, I have a free quiz, moneymindsethub. com forward slash quiz, basically it is your money personality and it is. eerily spot on. So if you haven't done it before, go check that out.
So anyway, she's done the quiz and then she's gone and bought the money archetypes course after that. And the beautiful thing is when you do get that course, you get the opportunity to actually have a private 60 minute intensive call with. Me and we did that and it was beautiful because there was so many moments where her whole being just lit up and it was landing.
Everything was landing. And the beautiful thing that I find is it's not always what a client says, but it's the way that they say it, their hesitation and the reading between the lines that I love and. Thank you to my intuition. It always guides me in the right light. And I always seem to see things that are under the surface and it's beautiful.
Hence I'm doing this. Otherwise I should probably pick a new gig. But what she said to me was really interesting. There was many things, but it was this one in particular, and it was around her money manifestations were just not. Simply working the way that she'd really intended. So she has this really big money goal, but her focus was on, it has to come through this one way and what I want you to think about right now is if you have a money goal of some sort, of course you can have intentionality as to which way it's coming in.
Obviously you want to be a bit more intentional if it's coming through your business and you would like it to come through your business, whatever it might be, but you do not want to close yourself off for the opportunities of. That abundance, that kind of money coming in an array of different ways. So this is the beautiful thing when it comes about money, money, manifestation, it is the fact that you can have a money goal, but it can come in through seemingly several different ways.
And some you will never be able to predict. So the thing is when we have controlling energy around the money goal that we're trying to manifest, when it has to come exactly how it has to come. What that controlling energy does is it actually restricts other pathways for it to come. And it also limits our brain as to what we believe that we can do, how we can receive.
When we start to bring all these conditions around, well, I want this, but it has to come in this particular way. And it's okay to be specific when you're manifesting. However, if it makes you feel this. Friction, this resistance, this really needy energy. That's when it actually can become quite repelling.
So what I was talking to her about was just, how about we just open our mind up for the different possibilities and the different ways that this actual money could come in and yes, having intentionality, like I said, is really important because if your desire is to bring about a certain level of income, say every month.
In your business. And then anything else is absolutely a bonus, but you want to have that intentionality that obviously you're going to drive your actions, your habits and your behaviors in alignment with getting that goal and who are you being in accordance with having that goal, let's say you've already done it.
And that was a really beautiful thing. So if you haven't heard me say before, but the way that I manifest is a really simple formula. Okay. It is declutter, decide, be, do, have. That's the way that I like to do it. I just find it is so simple and it always just brings about this newfound clarity when I do it in that specific order.
So we went through my formula today and we dug really deep as to what was coming up. The thing was not just obviously this trying to. Really control the way that it was coming in and not actually being able to open up opportunities for it to come in any other way. The other thing was she constantly came back to money was the problem.
So if she just had more money, then it would actually be able to solve her problems. She would be able to invest in her business. She would be able to get extra support. She'd be able to get more marketing, all those sorts of things. It always came back to. Money, but if I just had the money first, then I'll be able to do all the things.
But in actual fact, what I said to her is kind of like the chicken or the egg. If we're waiting until we get that money to do the things. We might be waiting forever. We actually have to look at, well, what's in my control right now? What can you do about it right now, in order to be able to move yourself one step closer to your desired reality, to your desired income goal, whatever it might be, you need to be able to take action towards that and trust and have faith that it's going to come so.
The thing is she's doing all the things, right? She has the team. She's got the support. She's got the endless amounts of ideas, but it also comes back to this belief of it's never enough. This limiting belief. Now, maybe you can relate to this, this feeling of it doesn't seem to matter how much money comes in or how many clients come in to sort of feel like it's not enough.
I need more. And you've got to work harder and hustle harder. And that's when this hustle culture comes in and then you burn out. And then all of a sudden you're procrastinating because it's actually not. It's actually not the money that you don't want. Like you, you definitely think you want the money.
You want the money goal. You want the recurring revenue. You want the thing that it is you're trying to call in. But in actual fact, it's what's on the other side of that, which can be really challenging. So when you're on the other side of that, and you might, you might consciously think to yourself. But I do want this level of money because this little money means I could do X, Y, Z and money is a tool.
It's a resource that you get to provide to invest and spend in, however you like. But the fact of the matter is, is the way that we can repel that is because one, we've got the controlling energy. Like I said, it has to come in this specific way by this specific date and this specific method.
It just closes off your mind to be resourceful. But then also on the other side of that is there, are these innate fears?
The point is you can have all of these incredible goals, dreams, desires, but when your subconscious runs about 95 percent of the show underneath, it is habitually controlling your actions, your habits, your behaviors, and it's not just physically, but it's also emotionally, mentally, energetically, your thought patterns, even so remembering your repetitive thoughts create your beliefs, regardless of whether they're true or false. So I want you to think about what do you think about under the surface when you've got your money goal. If you achieve that, then what would happen and how do you feel about that? Sit with that for a moment, because I truly find that more often than not in my clients, it is not the fear of failure that they are scared of.
They initially think that because it's the first one that sometimes comes to mind, but I want to go for this. And if I don't hit it, then I'm going to fail. And people are going to think, I don't know what I'm doing, or I'm going to have to change the goal. And I'm going to be really disappointed and all the things come up.
But what is actually scarier than failing is actually succeeding. Because can you hold that level of responsibility that comes with more? Can you hold the requirement to set boundaries? Could you hold the fact that people might not like it and it might rub people the wrong way, especially, and it might rub people the wrong way, especially the ones closest to you.
Can you hold the responsibility that comes with more because more comes with more, more money is more responsibility, more clients, more potentially clients. I'm being unhappy, more equals more. And we have to be able to hold that duality in order to be able to succeed and to feel that safety and that calm within our nervous system to be able to call in even more, but I want you to know what your money goal is for and really come back to why is that important to you?
And then go beneath the hood and understand what are all the things that coming up. And I just want you to play devil's advocate for a moment, but with your money goal, what's the best thing that could happen if you got that money goal or not, if, but when you get that money happen, because we're getting rid of the whole, maybe if someday we don't want that, we want definitive speech. So I will, I won't, I can, I do all those. Now, what happens on the other side of that though? So what's the best case scenario and what's the worst case scenario. And just play with that for a moment, because that is going to help you uncover a lot that is beneath the hood that you may not even consciously be aware of.
And here's the thing when it comes to transforming your relationship with money. There are so many layers to these blocks and there are three different types of money blocks that show up. This is what I noticed in myself on my own journey over the many, many years. But I also noticed this in the hundreds and hundreds of women that I've worked with, there are physical blocks, there are emotional blocks, and there are environmental blocks.
Now there are different types of blocks depending on what it is you're going through, what it is, the goal that you're. The goal that you're going for, what it is that's going on in your life. And just remember too, that your business is not separate in a way to you. So let me explain. You are separate to your business.
You in, as in you are two completely separate entities. You are not your business. Your business is not you. Yes. It's an extension of you. It's your creation. It's this beautiful body of work, but it's not you. But at the same time, if you are energetically,, physically, emotionally, off in your life, like something's not clicking, something's not right, and there is friction or resistance or procrastination going on there, it will flow on into your business and you will notice it in behaviors.
Do you procrastinate? Do you avoid things? Do you have all these ideas, but never execute? Do you struggle to actually follow through and get it done? If any of those behaviors are coming up, don't stress, don't make it like, you know, I'm just not someone who follows through. I'm just not someone who I just always procrastinate.
Remember, be aware of the labels that you're putting on yourself because you are what you say you are. The words that you think out, the words that you say out loud and the words you think internally, that becomes your reality. So. Add the word yet, reframe them. I am not someone who follows through yet. I am working on following through.
I am getting better at my ability to follow through. There are different ways that you can reframe them so that it can get through your mind because otherwise your mind's going to instantly reject it if it completely believes it to be false. But. When you start to condition your brain to start to see that there are different possibilities from the way that you've always been behaving, acting, responding, then that's when you notice these different patterns, habits and behaviors actually start to kick in.
So I hope this helps. As I take away from this, I just want you to think about that. What's the goal that you have? What's the best case scenario and the worst case scenario. And how do you feel about that? Truly
and if you want to take it further, there are two ways specifically for your money mindset. So you can take the money archetype quiz at money mindset hub. com forward slash quiz, and go and do the money archetypes course to go a hell of a lot deeper into your personality, or just go straight to the Don Megger of money mindset, which is my flagship signature program, rich and resilient.
That is going to completely transform your relationship with money. And it is not just something where I teach you, I want this to be more of an experience. And I know from myself and my clients. I still go back and listen to my own lessons. I go back when I'm at a new level or I feel a new resistance coming up.
I go back and listen to my own program. And I know that many of my clients do the same thing and they are continuing to have these beautiful money manifestation stories and growth going through this journey again and again and again. So you can check that out at moneymindsethub. com forward slash money.
And with that said, I'll catch you in the next episode.
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